People say that Stefan/Elena love is so so epic. Usually, they base their opinions on Stefan’s actions. “Stefan was able to fight with compulsion”, “Stefan protected Elena”, “Stefan respected her choice”, “Stefan would sacrifice his life for Elena”… Stefan this, Stefan that blah blah blah. What about Elena? Besides her lame “rescue mission” in season 3, where she gave up on him around ep. 3x09 & basically beg Damon to kiss her, she didn’t do a shit.
Even when I shipped Stelena in seasons 1-3, I never condsidered Elena’s love as ‘epic’. Bitch never wanted become vampire for him - even though she knew it’s necessery (“when you want be with someone forever, you must live forever” - it was words of Lexi’s lover). She told Stefan dozen times, that they will be “always”, “forever” blah blah blah. And when she got bored with him, she ditched him like dirt & hopped into bed with his brother. Classy till the end Elena.
Although, the mere fact, that she was so conflicted with her feelings at the end of season 3, that she had to “make a choice”, took away any epicness of her love.
It’s hard to belive in Stelena epic love, when we have scenes like this:
I just feel sorry for Stefan, this horrible triangle is like prison for him. I just hope, he will find a way to escape from this selfish bitch. She’s so not worth it.
"Your instincts are always to protect others. That says something about YOU. Remember that in this difficult time, because I know you don’t ‘have it easy’ right now.”
He basically showed HIS COMPASSION. HIS INSTINCTS reflect the good person at heart. But with Elena, it’s all about her. His goodness is about protecting her. And that’s what she tells him.